Overcoming the fear to ‘tuck’…

I have been weary of the tucked in look since I birthed my two children. I have a visible ‘mummy tummy’ and it’s honestly annoying how much I worry about it. Self-conscious is an extreme understatement! Usually I wear tops that cover my pockets and fall mid-zipper to completely hide my stomach entirely. Nothing form fitting and tucked in… are you kidding?! NOPE. I always felt that it accentuated every lump and bump that I was worried about….

Today when I was getting dressed I had envisioned the cutest outfit and when I put it on I realized that the top needed to be tucked in for sure. I always try it, never end up wearing it! Today… I wore it. And I’m SO happy I did!

Today’s outfit has had me glowing all day! This top is from J.Crew last season, but I linked this years version. I currently have it sitting in my cart because I like the no collar look better! Collars tend to get my hair all in a fuss! Chambray is always such a casual clean look and so comfortable that I love wearing it! It’s such a versatile look!

My favorite white denim from Loft of course had to make an appearance… it’s been a while since I’ve worn them! I love these in petite and think that they’re the perfect addition to the chambray top! Always comfortable, completely wash and wearable! Which is a big deal when you’re talking white denim!

I snagged these adorable platform wedges while we lived in Japan and they’re some of my favorites… so well made too! I’ve never been able to locate them online, however I did link some of my favorites down below! I’m on a total neutral wedge think right now honey and I think they’re going to be a constant all summer!

This Loeffler Randall pompom trim circular tote is the most adorable thing I’ve ever seen and just radiates the beachy fun vibes I’m looking for! The tassels are just everything and surprisingly it fits everything I need! Wallet, sunnies and a few lippies! Perfect!

What do you guys think?? Should this momma start rocking the ‘tuck’ again?!

This or That!

Let’s talk about this or that!

Sometimes I find things that I absolutely LOVE! But maybe they’re out of my budget or more than I’m looking to spend on a specific item. I love taking that opportunity to search and see what’s out there. Especially if an item is on trend for the season, chances are that many are making variations of certain pieces!

This jacket is a perfect example! While shopping at Talbots with my mom I spotted this jacket and LOVED the pom-pom detail with the lightweight versatility of the jacket! BUT I was not loving the price tag to say the least! Just a little research and I found a fantastic dupe for WAY cheaper!

The same is going to go for these ADORABLE shoes!!! I love wedges like this in the summer because the platform heel makes them so comfortable to walk-in yet I have the height of a stiletto! These are SO similar and both adorable! I even love the scalloped edge on the Steve Madden’s a little better, just a cute little touch! Obviously the color is different, but out of what I found I liked these two the best!

Also linking below some of my FAVORITE items that are currently on sale right now! You can click the thumbnails on the photo below and it’s going to take you directly to the sites offering the deals. I personally love getting these alerts and of course I’ll always share them here!

So what do you think?! Do you love a good dupe or what?? I know there are always going to be certain situations where the dupe doesn’t stand up to the original but sometimes it’s totally worth giving it a shot right?? Let me know what you think!

In the comments leave me a few brands you love to try to snag on sale!




While it can be said that Chris and I never took a formal ‘honeymoon’… we’ve found ourselves in some of the most beautiful places in the world. This photo is taken as the sun sets over the edge of an infinity pool, fading into the distance of Ras Al Khaimah, United Arab Emirates. Chris took me on an unbelievable vacation this past summer. Literally across the Emirates… breath taking views in between miles and miles of seemingly untouched desert! UAE was nothing like I imagined… I mean I knew it was going to have plenty of gorgeous scenery… I guess I just had no idea of the luxury!! These are just a few of my favorite memories and suggestions if you ever have the opportunity to visit! I can’t wait to go back in just a few months!! I’ll of course share more then!! At the end I’ll link some tips and products that were MUST have’s on my trip!

First I have to tell you the travel was NOT ideal… both there and back I was traveling for over 24 hours. I had a 6 hour layover in Zürich and the only thing that saved me was having lounge access. Free wi-fi, free food and free booze. If you don’t have lounge access through your airline or with maybe an AMEX or membership, I highly recommend joining various clubs or rewards programs that do. I had access to showers and washrooms where I did take advantage and freshen up, some even had areas to sleep. But regardless of how long I’d traveled, I would double it to see Chris. It was all worth it to spend this time with him and even if we hadn’t been able to explore these amazing places… I would have have traveled twice as long just to spend time with him.

Chris and a few friends arranged for us to have a gorgeous, giant sailboat all to ourselves for drinks, dinner and you know… hanging around! HA! They hoisted this rope apparatus over the side of the boat and raised it high…. looking at us like, let’s go! And even though I hesitated, I jumped at the opportunity to float over the corniche! I even dipped my toes in the warm crystal blue water… it was amazing. I can’t deny I was scared to death for a few minutes as I have a MAJOR fear of the ocean. But when you have opportunities to do something like this – TAKE THEM. That evening was amazing and the smile on Chris’ face when he went was something that I won’t ever forget. His smile always makes me melt but this one was memorable. Husband of the year award goes to….. Christopher!

Afterwards we walked the grounds of Emirates Palace which was the first royal palace until the new Prince of Abu Dhabi wanted a bigger one. So they made this palace the most luxurious hotel in the world. We giggled as we explored just in awe of the elaborate architecture. Imagine gold, marble and silk everywhere… ceilings so high it’s like they’re not even there! The ornate and unique paintings and sculptures that decorated the grounds were gorgeous. This palace was the home to the royal family of the richest country in the world and here we are, Chris and I, enjoying it. I told Chris I’d do anything to just stay one night there… the boys would love it too. The grounds and the pool were just as extravagant as the palace itself! Crossing my fingers we can make it happen!


Courtesy of Emirates Palace, 2018.

IMG_0603Dubai is a MUST, of course. But I have to say what surprised me the most was the sheer size of the Burj Kalifah. It IS the tallest building in the world, I know. Seeing in person with your own eyes is NOTHING like seeing in a picture. Even here, the sun is setting behind it and you see these buildings that seem SO tiny. They’re not. I promise you they are going to remind you a lot of every major city you’ve ever been in. The Burj is just THAT big. I feel like I cannot emphasize this enough… even with all CAPS. It’s just huge. But even aside from the Burj Kalifah, take the time to explore and shop the Souk, really take it all in. The Dubai Mall is the biggest mall in the world and has ANYTHING shop, boutique or restaurant you can imagine. I was so overwhelmed at the amount of people and just all the shopping. This mall even has an indoor ski slope, year round… an aquarium… a giant waterfall. My mind was literally blown. SO much to take in.

SO many amazing memories from this trip. And yet I’m planning another trip, a longer one for the boys to come too. I could have never dreamed of the places we’ve traveled. We are so blessed to offer the experience that we have to the boys. Different countries, exposure to culture and experiences they will remember for the rest of their lives. I’m so thankful. Travel as much as you can…. remember we only have this one life to live… so LIVE it!

Before you go!

Now for the travel tips and must have products I was talking about! Which I feel like I need to preface with three things… 1: I’m a planner and 2: I’m a germaphobe 3: I HATE flying and basically cringe the entire time. No plane nappy nap for moi.  So traveling especially on long trips to countries I’ve never been to before… I bring a large rolling duffle style carryon and pack it full of anything I might need. Basically I’m ready for anything…. I swear I could live out of that bag if I really needed too… HA!

In the Bag
• book
neck pillow // blanket (on sale)
• baby wipes
• snacks
a complete change of clothes (what if you get stuck without a bag)
Clorox wipes and Lysol spray (yes they come in travel size!)
• mini-bottles (they’re an ounce… hellooooo TSA approved)
battery pack (mine will charge my iPhone 5 full charges)
compression socks (um, I don’t want my feet to swell!)
• a scarf (if you’ve never sat next on a plane that smells like a full on fart… you’re lucky!)
lavender oil (mostly for above said mentioned stinky plane, but also to relax)
• and a small toiletry bag with a little make-up (and remover wipes), lotions, toothbrush and toothpaste, brush and ibuprofen/Benadryl.

To some this may seem like a lot for just me to travel… but it’s not. Of course this isn’t a complete list… somethings are just a given. But EVERYTHING on this list came in handy on this trip. And a little funny…. my bag did NOT have wheels. But I was so thankful I had anything and everything I needed… I didn’t mind lugging it around. It’s better to be safe than sorry for sure and I hate having to buy things I had at home when I could have just brought it. Hope it’s helpful!

If you’re flying international… make sure you check into the carry on restrictions for those countries too!! For example, Zürich only allowed one clear sandwich sized bag with liquids through security. It’s also good to find out ahead of time what the local time is going to be so you’re able to plan for that!

Now, ready, set – GO! Travel and see ALL there is to see!



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Outfit, Casual Style, Jeans, Boots Of course it’s Friday, I usually do all my running around on Fridays… it feels good to get out of the house! Today I needed to run to Nordstrom and I knew I’d be trying on clothes… primarily bridesmaids dresses! I’m in a very special wedding this April and I ordered a dress but think I’m changing my mind on style. I keep going back to try on another! Lol! That’s another story for another day…

A little about me… I HATE trying on clothes. I love getting dressed don’t get me wrong, but trying on clothes in a dressing room under those horrible fluorescent lights is the worst! But when I go I like to wear my hair straight, because I end up putting it a top knot. Lol! I also like to go feeling fabulous!!! Because confidence Kate is sexy! If I’m feeling grumpy or wearing sweats I leave not liking anything… having a fresh face and feeling good makes a world of difference!

Outfit, look, style, fashion, jeans, ootd, casual styleToday I wanted to wear a new fave that I got in for the shop, this surprise top!! It’s the most gorgeous navy and has little sweet red polka dots!! Adorable! It’s back in stock HERE and just $32! Sizes S-3XL!!

My jeans are from American Eagle which is a go to for me because they have stretch and fit my ‘mom bod’… hugs the curves I’ve got to flaunt and smoothes the rest! Which is perfect! I love skinny jeans, distressed jeans and they always have a great mix of colors. Today I chose white because… why not?! It looked great with the navy blue! And I’m SO ready for spring…

Outfit, fun, style, blog, casual style, American styleMy boots, I love these… they’re Lucky Brand and from a while ago. But I did find similar and linked them above! They’re also adorable and I love the detail!

My bag is by Anya Hindmarch and her bags are not only quality but the Eyes Collection adds fun personality! I found her on Rent the Runway and I’m so glad! The leather is remarkable! Thank you Rent the Runway! I am loving my Unlimited monthly membership and it is an awesome way to add fun fashionable pieces to your closet! Sometimes even trying things I would have never otherwise tried and surprisingly falling in LOVE! So you even have the option to buy! YES!

I’m trying to decide what to wear this weekend… Of course it’s FREEZING again in Virginia and rain. BLAH. Anyone else ready for winter to be over?! C’mon… Spring!! Anyway! Hope you enjoyed todays outfit of the day! It was incredibly… almost comically windy while I was trying to take these photos. 10min prior I was driving through rain and snow… crazy weather. LOL!



But first… W I N E.

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Today’s outfit brought to you by the beginning phase of what we’re doing here. Getting back to the basics of fashion.

Step One: Finding Confidence.

Ladies, confidence is sexy. It’s what makes you glow, gives you the sparkle and shine… it’s not even just a look. It’s more of a feeling. I mean let’s talk about some trends here..



Gigi Hadid | Courtesy of Elle.com

We’ve all been here… sneaks, sweatpants and coffee. Just a prayer that we can manage without being seen. But nevertheless you know you will be… so you throw on a cute jacket, queue the messy bun and throw on your shades. If you’re rocking it, I don’t care what you look like…. it can be sexy.
I’ve fallen into a comfortable habit of not even blow drying my hair after a shower… I mean my shop is online, I make others look gorgeous. But I can go weeks without seeing anyone other than my little humans. So here’s to a new journey and in large part the purpose of our blog here. I’m not only going to style and fashion others, I’m going to get back to styling myself. I can be fashionable and cute at home. Who says I need to be going anywhere to put on lipstick!? Nobody, that’s who!